Despite our best efforts we’re going to hit roadblocks. The proverbial one step forward, two steps back can be can be frustrating. Usually when all doesn’t go as we’d planned, or hoped, it means that all wasn’t as it needed to be. When this happens there are two very important things to consider:
First, when you are not obtaining the results that you’d hoped for it’s time to use the step back to look at the situation from a distance. We get so close to our dreams that we can’t see the issues that need to be addressed. It is then that we need to take the Simple Step of becoming an observer rather than a participant.
This might not be the easiest Simple Step… but it will yield you a more objective view of the situation. If you were observing a friend going through this what would you tell them? Of course you’d be encouraging… however you’d want them to succeed so you’d tell them what you see is occurring. Remember that every lesson you learn makes you better! Try this a few times and notice how much better prepared to move forward.
Second, when we see our efforts falling short we tend to isolate ourselves as if our failure defined us as a person. We are embarrassed, sometimes humiliated, or just feel bad about ourselves. This is however not the time that we should be backing away from everyone who has been encouraging and supporting us all along! Those folks who have been there for you aren’t going to think less of you because something didn’t work out the way you planned.
This Simple Step is easy. Talk to your friends and family about what happened, tell them how you feel and what you’re planning to do next. If you don’t exactly know what your next step is let them know that you’re regrouping, reassessing and re-energizing because it’s your dream and you’re going to find another way. When you share the good and the not so good you’ll realize that whatever happened is just a pothole in the journey… and everyone negotiates around those!
“I didn’t fail the test, I just found 100 ways to do it wrong.”
— Benjamin Franklin
In the end it is about learning and sharing our experiences. We get stronger… and those who witness our journey are inspired by it. And that feels great!
On a personal note… At Simple Steps… Real Change we have literally thousands of people who come into our lives. They stay awhile however when they experience a time when something negative happens in their lives, they back away. We don’t judge our friends and are here to support and encourage each other.
With love to all, Cheryl