Who I Want to Be

In the last couple of weeks since I’ve been publishing segments of “Simple Steps… Real Change, the Book” Jack & I haven’t been collaborating on our posts.  

You can imagine my amazement when I read today’s quote:

Don’t get too comfortable with who you are at any given time – you may miss the opportunity to become who you want to be. Jon Bon Jovi

I wish that i could say that Jack did this just for me…but this one is pure coincidence!  If you know the story from my Facebook posts then you know that this week I was accepted into graduate school.  I am pursing a Masters of Science degree in Psychology.  

I have felt that something was missing in my life…for many years now.  I’d looked for ways to expand myself but in hindsight I was grabbing on what was the “popular” thing to do.  Grad school, Law School, Real Estate investing, being a financial advisor.   Not a single one of those things felt “right.”  I pulled out of grad & Law school at the 11th hour, failed miserably at real estate investing and someday I’ll tell you about going to work at a big investment house (I lasted 3 weeks before a good friend kicked me into reality).

Throughout my life there has always been one common theme in the things that I enjoy.  I love helping others pursue their dreams.  Whether it was mentoring an employee or linking people together to achieve a common goal…it all came down to doing for others. My career in the insurance industry filled my pockets but drained the life out of me.

It has been interacting with the Simple Steps community that has brought me the greatest joy.  Jack & I talk often about this wonderful experience and that it feeds my soul just being part of it.  Out of the blue one day he said that he thought that I would be a good psychologist.  It was at that moment that the light went on and I realized that what I was passionate about all along had been in front of me the whole time.   

It was time to stop hiding behind an old career, let go of the ledge, and pursue my passion. 

I’m not going to tell you that it isn’t scary…it is!  It’s been 33 years since I last opened a text book…and the world of education is vastly different than what I experienced at a state college in Pennsylvania.  The good news is that I am “mature”, I am not naïve nor am I easily intimidated. I left trying to impress others at the door the day my job ended and I have nothing to prove to anyone except myself.

This time my education is for me…not for any expectations that others have for me.  And best of all…I am excited because this feels right! 

What it comes down to for me is that I am taking these Simple Steps:

  • Moving forward in the direction of my dream (pursuing my education)
  • Taking one Simple Step at a time (taking one course at a time)
  • Being aware of my next step (knowing what is next on my course schedule)
  • Glancing occasionally to the end game (graduation and…perhaps pursuing a PhD.)

This time I’m enjoying my journey because I realize what I learn from the process is far more rewarding than having a diploma in my hand.  (Though I want that for me too!)

How about you?  Are you ready to leave your comfort zone?  What opportunity is waiting for you? I’ll be here for you when you are ready…and until you are.

Thank you for being part of this wonderful journey.  I am grateful that we are traveling together!

With Love,




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