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How to Detach and Brave the Journey to Acceptance

My aging mom enjoys doing jigsaw puzzles. She sits with 550 little pieces scattered around her dining room table and methodically looks for the matching pieces. I have spent this week with her, preparing to move her back to California for the last time. In the evening after running errands and packing, I sit with her and work the puzzle as CNN or a classic movie serves as her background entertainment. We chat sometimes while we focus on the puzzle. It is quite calming and peaceful, and to me it feels somewhat like a meditation. Thoughts float by about the years I have spent identifying my own unmet needs and moving towards a place of acceptance with my mother. Without going into detail, I have come to understand that I am most anchored (effective, empowered and grateful) when I take ownership of my own physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual health. In a nutshell, I have learned how to mother myself in a way that allows me to accept my mother exactly as she is. I cannot express the depth of my joy and gratitude as I comfortably relax within my inner world without sitting in judgment of her. This week has provided another little gem for me. Given that successfully overcoming obesity has been my lifelong obsession, it has been challenging to see my mother…