Choosing Differently

We’ve all heard it and I know I’ve argued it a time or two… If you keeping doing the same thing you’re going to get the same results.  Why do we keep repeating the exact same thing when even a tiny shift in our approach could make all the difference?

Are you approaching the concerns you’ve had for years the same way you always have?  Are you trying to control someone or something that you have no control over?  Are you ready to try something different?

I, for one, have been a worrier for most of my life.  All that worrying though didn’t keep us financially sound, it didn’t keep Jack from dying and it certainly drained the joy out of our lives. I used to pride myself in being able to bounce back from stress and be happy all within a day. That all ended when the multiple challenges overwhelmed me.  I found myself alone, Jack had died, and honestly lost.

It’s been nearly 3 years since my husband passed and I can’t say there has been day since then that I’ve been able to sustain any amount of happiness. What I have been doing is what I’ve been doing for so long that I didn’t realize it wasn’t working. I just thought that was what my life was now.

Then I woke up.  I remembered every word I ever wrote about self-fulfilling prophecies.  I recalled every conversation about making the choice to see things from a different perspective.  And then I realized I could get back to that better feeling place by making the decision to.

We hear all the time that its our choice to be happy or not. I remember thinking that no one walks in my shoes so how could they say such a thing?  Well I’m walking in my own shoes here. No I can’t change my past and I certainly can’t bring Jack back but I can choose to be happy in this moment.  I chose my misery but I’m tired of it.   Are you tired of yours?

Here is how this looks right now to me.  I am healthy, I have a roof over my head, I have a good job working with amazing people. I am choosing to focus on all this good in my life. I’m stopping to smell the proverbial roses and reveling in the beauty that surrounds me.

Since deciding to change the way I’m approaching my life I wake up and immediately remind myself today is a new beginning.  I tell myself it is a good day and I have a good life.   As I look at others I smile, say “hello,” and wish them well.  All that makes my day better and hopefully it helps theirs too.

I may not have or be everything I desire but with a positive focus on my life I know that I am happier and what will come will come.  And if it doesn’t… “oh well.” It doesn’t matter as long as I feel the joy for what my life is right now. Because right now is all we have.

Are you willing to take a new approach in your life if it makes your now better?  It is… your choice.

With love, Cheryl

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