Tomorrow is Christmas and a day of celebration for so many. It’s a day the reminds us of hope and of love. Still there are those who don’t find the joy in the holiday. Maybe they are alone, dealing with life challenging issues or have something in their life that has left them feeling hopeless and sad.
This week I’ve talked to friends who dread this season, others who are stressed beyond belief and yet others who are dealing with a devastating fire. For me it’s my first holiday season with no close family. My mom passed last January and of course it’s been 3 Christmas since my husband died. It’s easy to understand how these friends and I would not be in a place of wanting to celebrate.
If you are dealing with parts of your life that bring you down there is still a way to raise your spirits this season. It starts with understanding that it is one season. It’s isn’t your life. You feel the way you feel this year however if you can ground yourself in the truth that this is just an experience then you are not dooming yourself to thinking that every holiday will be like this one. Think about it. You may have had tough times before too but then you had other wonderful holidays. This will be no different.
Next think of what one thing would make you feel better right now. It has to be something that is realistic. Sure I’d feel better if Jack was alive but that isn’t going to happen. I decided this morning, yes Christmas eve, to go shopping for myself. It was fun to get out in the early hours before the crowds hit and I enjoyed this morning. As I am sitting here now it is snowing and that is an added bonus! (It snows rarely in Portland, OR.)
Perhaps for you it may be baking or cooking, going skiing or snowboarding, walking your dog, spending time with your children or dear friends. One of my purchases today was a hardback book which I rarely buy. Sitting in front of the fireplace and reading it is what I am looking forward to doing on Christmas day and then I’m having dinner with a dear friend. How about you? What can you do that never fails to make you feel better? Do that!
You can set yourself up for a happier day than what you are expecting by choosing to do something that you see as good. Rather then focusing on all you’ve lost or don’t have you can choose to see the opportunities of your own making. Anything you are willing to do that is a positive step for you will raise your spirits up. You have to start somewhere and the choice to do one thing that makes you feel better is truly easy and simple.
Wishing you happier holiday!
With love, Cheryl