Learning To Live Again

What  are you going to do after you’ve been through the worst life has to offer?

Do you often find meaning for your life in songs your hear? Do you have a favorite that makes you feel good… or one that speaks to your sadness.  I’m one of those people.

While I do my fair share of writing there is always a lyric from some creative genius that sticks to my soul and helps me realize I’m not the only one.  Recently I heard an old song on the radio that never really resonated with me until now.  It’s “Learning to Live Again” by Garth Brooks.  The last line of the chorus is ‘This learning to live again is killing me.”

The song is about dating again but before you jump to conclusions.  No I am not dating. I have no interest at this point in my life and the “killing me” is about how difficult life can be. But life is hard when you’ve lived through hard times.  When the worst life has to offer has knocked you down on your knees getting back up is hard.

We do so much to keep our lives moving forward as best we can.  Since my husband died I’ve been going through the motions of life and trying to break out of the place of sadness and mere existence.  Every week on the Simple Steps Real Change radio show I try to strike a similar chord with the audience.  We’re all going through something.  How though do we get through it?

The easy answer would be one Simple Step at a time but sometimes that answer just doesn’t cut it.  We can all take a step but we wonder if it is the right one.  We worry that it might not turn out the way we thought and we’ll be in a worse place than we are now.  We’re frozen by the “what if’s” in life.

As long as we look at whatever we are considering and think “what if it doesn’t work out” we keep ourselves from realizing that it could more than likely be the best thing that has happened to us. But if you never try do you want to be in the position of thinking “If only?”

When I came back from Ireland, my breakout trip, I came back with a sense that there is so much I haven’t seen locally that I have been missing out on. If I choose to not walk out my door, if we choose not to try, out of fear that something bad might happen we’re choosing to miss out on the beauty of this life.  I’ve done that for many years… long before I lost my husband.  It’s time for that fear to end and I know that it is my choice.

What about you?  Are you ready to step beyond what is holding you back and take a chance on happiness?  Let’s do this together.  Yes, learning to live again might be hard, but it’s not going to kill us… in any way.  And what if we end up living the life of our dreams?

With love, Cheryl


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