Does everyone and everything else come first or at least before your own needs? Do you forgo taking care of yourself, eating right, having some “me” time because you don’t think you have time for your own needs? Are you quietly (or not so quietly) undermining your own well being?
Whether you have children, aging parents or a demanding job placing yourself at the bottom of the list will hurt you more than asking the others in your life to wait. Emergencies are one thing but that’s not what I’m talking about here. When are you going to decide you are important too?
You know that you will always take care of your family but you can’t always be last on your own priority list. You can set aside 30 minutes a day, or on most days, to do what you love or to treat yourself to something that supports your needs. Whether you take time to read a book, treat yourself to a pedicure or take a nap you need to do what will make you feel good and good about yourself.
As someone who has no immediate family left, and is responsible for only myself, I know first hand what filling time without purpose is. We silently find reasons not to take a walk, cook a healthy meal or explore a new town. I have said often in the last 6 months that I am out of excuses not to take care of myself. Do you make excuses for ignoring your own needs?
I find it hard to cook for myself, to walk out of the house when I don’t have to or to meet a new friend. Much of that is tied up with living life alone after 36 years being a couple.
What I’ve come to realize is that by leaving ourselves off of the priority list were taking life for granted. We assume tomorrow will be like today. We assume that what we are ignoring for ourselves will be “fine.” We assume ignorance though deep inside we know differently.
The hardest thing we have to do is make a change in our lives when we don’t value that life enough to care. Do you care for yourself? I know I don’t or haven’t. Maybe that comes from living through the worst life has to offer. But then again if we have made it through that don’t we deserve the best it has to offer too?
Are you ready to make a change that will support your own life, your own happiness, you? It all starts with a single step… a Simple Step. And that step right now is to tell yourself that you deserve better than you have been giving to yourself. Sit with that for a moment and ask yourself this question. What one thing could you change right now that would make you feel better about yourself? A walk around the park, a healthy meal, writing, reading, swimming, being?
Every life on this earth matters. Isn’t it time you mattered to you?
With love, Cheryl