It is what it is… until you make it more.
Are you churning over your circumstances or perhaps something someone else said to or about you? Do you look at your physical shape, your bank account or you home and don’t like what you see? Are you just unhappy with your lot in life?
Dissatisfaction is an attitude that makes whatever you are going through worse than it is. It’s a judgment and a curse. Feeling bad about anything just makes you feel worse. And it’s a choice you’re making. We all do.
Of course you could be sitting there wondering how you could possibly be happy about being out of a job, not being able to pay the rent or dealing with illness or injury. I’m not suggesting that you should be. If you are stressing or struggling with the circumstances however you are making a choice to do so.
When you choose to allow those circumstances, no matter how “bad” they feel to you, to be nothing more than what they are they lose the power they are holding over you. Do you really want what feels so bad to you to control you? I doubt it. (Unless you live for drama but that’s a subject we’ll talk about later.)
Allowing your circumstances to be just another experience neutralizes their power over you.
You don’t have to like what you are going through. You don’t have to think it’s good or positive or feel anyway about it that goes against who you are. If you adopt the philosophy that “it is what it is” though you give yourself the to energy to make your life more than what it is.
How’s that? (You might ask…) When you stop churning over what is making you unhappy you can channel that energy into what will make you happy. You shift your efforts to do something that will make you feel better. You choose to be in control of how you feel not a victim. It’s all a matter of choices.
As a person who has lost everything in life that ever mattered to me I know that it’s easy to allow yourself to be pulled, put and kept down by the pain, the sorrow, the grief. I’ve been there and even stayed in those places for awhile. At the end of the day though I’m the only one who can make me happy. And you’re the only one who can do that for you.
With love, Cheryl