When was the last time you ventured out on your own? Do you go to a restaurant, even fast food, alone? Are you willing to step out of your front door to walk around the block? When was the last time you took a class, went to a movie or attended a seminar by yourself? Ever?
When Jack was alive we did almost everything together so I had no need or interest in doing anything alone. With all those years together I feel like the old dog learning a new trick and not really being a willing student. As I sit here writing though I know in my heart that if I don’t make the effort to move outside of my zone of comfort my life will become a living death… over before it’s time. For me that’s a waste of the life I’ve been given.
The longer we remain stagnant the harder it is to re-engage in life. I don’t believe though that it takes a giant leap to keep us engaged in life. So I walk around the block in my neighborhood. In just that Simple Step I’ve met old friends, helped my ankle heal and earned an activity point with Weight Watchers.
Still there are things I never liked and won’t do. I won’t go to a meeting alone that makes me feel lonely. I’ve never been a big movie fan so going and sitting in a theater alone isn’t something I have any interest in doing. Instead I work with a coach through Weight Watchers and pay for Netflix.
With just a Simple Step, a simple effort that is makes us feel good about ourselves, we begin to break through whatever stopped us. For me it was the death of my husband. For others I’ve worked with it’s been a divorce, a job loss, being abandoned by family and friends. We realize we are stronger than we though we are the minute we take that step.
One you take one it’s easier to take the next.
What are you willing to do for yourself right now?
With love, Cheryl