Alone On The Holidays

 The holidays are a difficult time for anyone who is alone. This will be my first season since Jack passed. I know there are many of you reading this who have lost a love one and this time of the year is something that you dread. I can’t tell you I’m looking forward to it… but it comes along regardless of what we want.
If I could suggest… allow yourself to feel the pain of being alone. Grieve for those who aren’t with you. Whether they have passed, are serving half way around the world or are estranged from you, it doesn’t matter. Hard is hard.
While you’re giving into your pain also remember that distracting yourself from it will help you too. One allows the emotions to flow and not stay bottled up. The other enables you to do something more positive that has the potential to make you feel better, if only for a little while. Whatever you do drop the need to think about what you should or shouldn’t do. You don’t need that right now.
Allowing yourself to be distracted from your pain is not disrespectful of your loved one. Your life doesn’t stop because they have died or are elsewhere.
And if they are ones who love you they would want you to be happy. It may be hard this time of the year but as with everything… it is, merely, a moment in time.
With love, Cheryl