Just Do It Or Not

Fotolia_7102952_Subscription_Monthly_MHow many times have you heard this phrase?  It’s a battle cry for health & fitness and a motivator for anyone standing on the edge of their future. When you’re going through significant life challenges though “Just Do It’ and “Don’t Do It” carry equal weight.

Sometimes we need to do nothing.  There might be too much going on already or so much confusion that doing anything might just make it worse.  There is also the important step of taking the time to “be” in your emotions and give yourself time to heal has to come first.

When however you get to the point where doing something, anything, is important, remember this.  Whatever you feel you have to do doesn’t have to be permanent.  You can take a job to give you some security and pay the bills but it doesn’t have to be your “forever” job. You can take a break from your relationship and come back (or not) and be better for it. (Ok…this one does require honest conversation and kindness first.) You can stop paying for unnecessary stuff like those daily lattes or another pair of shoes while you build up your new house or college fund.

Doing something you don’t necessarily want to do when you need to do it isn’t the worst thing in the world.  It’s not embarrassing, humbling or beneath you.  It’s making the decision to put your immediate needs first and there is never anything wrong with that.

Starting over, starting again?  Be kind to yourself and Just Do It!

With love, Cheryl

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2 thoughts on “Just Do It Or Not

  1. Right now, it feels like the weight of the world is on me, I struggle to find a center and know what to tackle first.Everything feels like it needs my attention.And I am overwhelmed with panic and grief. I am in pain, but mostly I am frustrated. I am unable to separate or compartmentalize . I beat myself up all day.I am sick of my story, and of myself. I have been struggling with the same crap for a long time.People will say: change what you can and accept the rest. I am not sure what I can change. and everything is moving so slowly.I am frightened a lot of the time. I try to tell myself, there will be a leveling off place and this too shall pass, but it never does. Or if it does it pass into more of the same. I feel like a cat chasing it’s tail.but I can not ever catch it.I would let go of some of the things, If I knew which one to let go of and mark off for do later.

    1. Gailenanna, I have been in that place where you are now even though our circumstances may be different. It’s that time when you are so overwhelmed that you blame yourself for what you did or didn’t do and then again for beating yourself up. It isn’t helping you… you know that. I think for me it went on for years until I realized the crap kept coming because I invited it (perhaps unwillingly) into my life. What you focus on is what keeps happening… in some variation or another.

      Instead of thinking what you need to do to get out of this place… quit trying to figure it all out. Take a good look at your life and your surroundings and focus on what is good. For me it was the flowers blooming. I gave thanks for the flowers for many weeks until I started to see the trees were beautiful and oh then my health was good. IN time I realized all that was good in my life and the bad wasn’t as much in focus. It was then that I could decide what to do, for me… not for anyone else.

      I wrote “Simple Steps For Real Life” based on what I experienced at this time in my life. Here’s more about it: http://www.cheryllmaloney.com/books/buy-nowsimple-steps-for-real-life/

      Regardless of where you are right now you can be in a better place when you choose to. No, it’s not easy… but it will be worth the effort when you realize you’ve left your misery behind.

      With love, Cheryl

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