We all deal with challenges in our lives. The job, marriage or dream that ended. The drama created by others or by us. The health, financial or security issues. And sometimes it is a combination of 2 or more things and we find ourselves struggling to get out of bed in the morning… fearful of the other shoe dropping on our head.
We get caught up in our issues and they drag on and drag us down. As I write this Jack is preparing to start radiation and chemotherapy for a cancer that we thought at first was harmless. We’ve been on this journey for 3 years now so this moment in time seems endless.
In every situation we encounter we have the opportunity to allow it to bury us or to lift us up. And sometimes we experience both. It is a choice however where we spend our time and our energy.
If you’re dealing with a challenge right now consider these Simple Steps to help you get through it:
- First… kindness first. For yourself and others. Unless you’ve been through this before and anyone else involved has been through this before… you’re forging new ground and there is rarely a map let alone a solid plan. If you’re finding yourself in a recurring situation then taking the time to reflect rather than judge will help you the most.
- Now… resist the tendency to go to the “worst case scenario.” All that will do is drive you crazy. The “worst” happens less than 7% of the time. 93% of the time what’s next is something less severe and frequently ends up being a non-event (except in your imagination.)
- Next… give yourself some time. No decision has to be made immediately regardless of what someone else thinks. A “knee jerk” reaction may make you feel good at the moment but in the long run it’s short-sighted.
When you give yourself the time to absorb and adjust to whatever you’re going through… you give yourself the chance to see more clearly and then make decisions that will support and serve you. And it needs to be all about you right now. The moment will pass, eventually… but it will pass more easily when kindness, clarity and patience guide you.
With love, Cheryl