Starting Over?

This is the first in a series of articles, books & programs about Starting Over (Later in Life). 

Did you lose your job? Your significant other?  Did you lose your house, go through bankruptcy or foreclosure?  Are you starting life alone again after divorce or the death of your partner?

You can Google any of these situations and find virtually millions of stories just like yours… So you know you aren’t alone.  That may not make it any easier… but there is comfort in know you are not forging new ground.

If you’re starting over in any way the first thing you should do is… Nothing!  Yep… I said that.  Don’t take a Simple Step.  Don’t think you have to take action…  Right now you just need to be.  New normal will come soon enough.  The last thing you need to do is something you’ll regret.

Give yourself a chance to process what is going on.  Feel the emotions, vent your anger, cry it out, feel the pain, the grief.  This is not the time to bury your emotions and “be strong.” That will come in time.  For now though if you don’t let it out it will build up and come out when you don’t need it.

How long you take to move through your pain is a personal decision.  No one else gets to tell you what is right.  Know that when you’re personally ready… you will move forward… taking the first Simple Step that is right for you.

For now, just “be.”  Nothing else matters.

Over the next few weeks we’ll talk about Simple Steps to that will move you from where you are to where you want to be. We’re covering these starting over areas:

  • Relationships
  • Job/Career
  • Financially
  • Alone after death or divorce
  • In a new town

If there is a particular area you want help with… let me know.  Comment either here on the website or the FB page.

Simple Steps was created so you’d know you are not alone.  We’ll do this together!

With love, Cheryl