Borrow Trouble Give It Back by SIMPLE STEPS
What keeps you up at night? Is it a legitimate worry or a fear that something might possibly happen in the future? You know the difference. Losing your job and not being able to pay the rent is distinctly different from fretting about what someone else might say about you to their friends.
There are plenty of real situations that we have to deal with. This blog isn’t about those… This is about borrowing trouble. Anxiety about what could occur sometime in the future serves no purpose and just wastes valuable time and energy. When you add in the concept of the Law of Attraction it is what you focus on that you experience. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy… your own creation.
If you constantly worry that you aren’t going to have enough time, you probably feel overwhelmed and overburdened. And you are. What we think about is what we experience. There was a time in my life when all I worried about was money, specifically not having enough. Not surprisingly that fear became my reality when my position was eliminated and a series of very bad investments resulted in financial devastation. The more that I worried about money the worse my financial position became.
It wasn’t until I started studying about the Law of Attraction that I understood that my thoughts became things… And my thoughts were not positive! When I finally “got” it, it took me a while to break out of the pattern of financial fear. Unfortunately the Law of Attraction does not include the words “instant gratification.” Some may even say that my karma had not caught up with my new way of thinking. It was discouraging when even after I changed my thought patterns the bad stuff kept happening. I knew in my heart though that if I just kept my focus on what I wanted my life to be… instead of what I didn’t… the tide would turn. It was a difficult yet enlightening exercise in patience.
This whole concept may go against the way you were raised. I was taught to live in the real world not some fantasy. Repeating “I think I can, I think I can” may sound more like a the child’s story than an empowering mantra. Breaking life long patterns take time. It is not always easy but it is simple.
If you are ready to break the cycle of worry and create a positive life try these Simple Steps:
- Identify the worry that you want to let go of. Be specific. For example “I’m afraid that my boyfriend will leave me and I’ll be alone.”
- Consider how you have been acting when it comes to this fear. Using our example perhaps you’ve been obsessing every time your boyfriend goes somewhere alone or that you are constantly fighting about anything and everything. What you are doing in this Simple Step is identifying the behavior that is contributing to your worry.
- Next replace your worry with a statement that serves you better. “John and I have been together for over a year. We enjoy the same things and are a great match.” This statement creates a powerful positive image for you to focus on.
- Now it’s time to change your actions to support your new power statement. “John’s going out with the boys tonight and he needs that time. I’m going to take this time that I have and reconnect with my friends too.” If you find yourself ready to argue about some minor detail stop and ask yourself what is important to you. Do you want to be happy in the relationship or is an instant “win” more important. When you give it a little perspective you’ll realize that you can focus your energy in a more positive and self supporting way. When your boyfriend notices that you’ve stopped participating in all the little arguments the stress of the relationship will fall away and all the good things that you know about each other return to the light.
Eliminating worry from your life isn’t a once and done effort. Taking the Simple Steps to get there relieves so much stress that you’ll discover how much you’re enjoying life. And then your self-fulfilling prophecy brings happiness beyond your wildest dreams!