Give the Messenger a Break

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When we are at our lowest we tend to lash out at those who love and support us the most.  I guess we feel “safe” because we know that they will always be there for us.  When everything that they do or say seems to strike us wrong it’s time break the cycle. 

When you find yourself in a place where even your biggest cheerleader is annoying you try one of these Simple Steps to break out of your negativity:

  • As you catch yourself growling (you’ll know by the hurt look on the face of the person you’re talking to)… Say, ” Wait.  My pain is showing and I don’t mean to take it out on you.  I’m sorry.” Remember that catching yourself being negative is a big step to letting the light back into your life.
  • If you realize after the fact that you might not have been kind…immediately reconnect.  Whether that is in person or on the telephone. Now go to the first bullet point and repeat.
  • Do something absolutely silly. Go in the closet, shut the door and just start laughing.  Take the can of whipped cream and draw a smile on your face.  Walk outside and roll around in the grass.  Whatever silliness you choose to engage in you will automatically feel better.  When you return to face your cheerleader tell them that you know that you are taking yourself too seriously and you needed to break that cycle.  That should also break the tension between you.

If you can realize that you’ve hit your stress limit and you’re taking it out on those that you love…  You can change your attitude.  It takes breaking the cycle just once to put you in a better place.  That doesn’t mean that all of your problems magically disappear… it means that a ray of light has reached you.  And once there is light that can be no darkness! 

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