Give the Messenger a Break

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When we are at our lowest we tend to lash out at those who love and support us the most.  I guess we feel “safe” because we know that they will always be there for us.  When everything that they do or say seems to strike us wrong it’s time break the cycle. 

When you find yourself in a place where even your biggest cheerleader is annoying you try one of these Simple Steps to break out of your negativity:

  • As you catch yourself growling (you’ll know by the hurt look on the face of the person you’re talking to)… Say, ” Wait.  My pain is showing and I don’t mean to take it out on you.  I’m sorry.” Remember that catching yourself being negative is a big step to letting the light back into your life.
  • If you realize after the fact that you might not have been kind…immediately reconnect.  Whether that is in person or on the telephone. Now go to the first bullet point and repeat.
  • Do something absolutely silly. Go in the closet, shut the door and just start laughing.  Take the can of whipped cream and draw a smile on your face.  Walk outside and roll around in the grass.  Whatever silliness you choose to engage in you will automatically feel better.  When you return to face your cheerleader tell them that you know that you are taking yourself too seriously and you needed to break that cycle.  That should also break the tension between you.

If you can realize that you’ve hit your stress limit and you’re taking it out on those that you love…  You can change your attitude.  It takes breaking the cycle just once to put you in a better place.  That doesn’t mean that all of your problems magically disappear… it means that a ray of light has reached you.  And once there is light that can be no darkness! 

7 thoughts on “Give the Messenger a Break

  1. I believe the Archangels helped you and still are……there is small book called……..How to work with Angels, by Elizabeth Clare Prophet……it will tell you of the seven Archangels that we can call to if we need help of any kind. Some people ask each day for different areas of help and the angels come thru. They are Archangel Michael, Jophiel, Chamuel, Gabriel, Raphael, Uriel, Zadkiel…………

  2. Shannon,
    Thank you for sharing a very inspiring story. I came to learn that struggles in life don't last for ever, but when you are going through them the negative emotion is damaging and it seems eternal. When I have gone through difficult times, i repeat the following phrase as many times as possible, "this will come to past too"

    Your story is touching, and you also wrote your message in a very clear manner. Have you consider writing a book? I think that is a story you should share with the entire world.

  3. Shannon,

    That was so very touching. I remember being in a place like you were in. Forty-two, in the middle of a divorce with two young children; two heart attacks and a quad bypass; foreclosure on my home and land of 20 years; and my son leaving for Iraq only nine days after my surgery. It was a very humbling time. I'm fortunate in that I was given a second chance to start my life, my attitude over. I can honestly say that I have not had a "bad" day since the afternoon that I came out of surgery and was amazed at just BEING alive.. breathing.
    Not to say that there are not trying times, there are, but learning each day how to look at it in a different positive light. One situation in particular occuring right now, your post I believe, was for me to read so that I could let this situation go.
    Thanks so much for sharing 🙂
    Chin is back up; anger gone… 🙂

  4. What an incredible story. I saw a Phoenix rising from the ashes as I read this story. From ruin comes transformation. Shannon, you are an inspiration and Cheryl, thank you so much for reposting this and giving us a story that can serve as such an awesome example of what we all can do. Make the choice to take responsibiloity for our own life. Beautiful!

  5. Shannon, I can't even begin to tell you how inspiring your life is to me. You have done what I hope to share with others… We have a choice… no matter how difficult the road is. You must be such an inspiration to your children… and to all those who know you. My words do not do justice to you… You are nothing short of amazing… and a hero to your family.
    With love to you and your family. Cheryl

  6. my name is shannon i am 42 i have 5 kids 2 of them our on there owen but i have a 16 year old and twins that are 10. for most of my life it has not been easy my husband has bipolor my son has many learning disablitys i was the one who woked until the twins turned 2 and i broke my hip i had 4 surgerys ending in a total hip replacment that never healed now i am disabled. we ended up 2 years ago loosing our home and a very shady landlord that kept everything we everyowend, we had nothing. as we were living in a hotel i realzed that i had 2 choices i always had faith and i truly belive in positve engery and what you put out there comes back. but i also realized that i was blcking myself. so i relized i needed to have faith in myself so i took small steps i put one foot on the ground and started depending on me. it was hard. but 2 years later life is so much better. we now have a great flat in a great town my kids are thriving they are all at great school . i relized i could have felt sorry for myself and been angery and not moved on. i truly belive the universe gave me a fresh start a new beging . i changed how i looked at life and my self one step at a time i relized i needed to take control of at least one aspect of my life so i picked my finances.. i learned to dpend on mysself yes we still struggle but once i took that step and took control other parts of my life started to fall into place. irealized that depending on me and learning that you can get what you want and need without spending tons of money you can do it. i know i am very lucky to have the chnce to start my life over . you cant live in the past or hold on to it you will never move forward. you have to have faith and be greatful and belive in yourself

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