When I started Simple Steps… Real Change my focus was on helping others to take a Simple Step forward in life. It is when we move forward that we achieve our dreams. Today I’d like to take the time to talk about the second part of this process… Real Change.
Change is inevitable in life and it’s better to learn to surf the waves of change then to let yourself be pulled under by the current.
The key is that you have to want to surf. Every Simple Step that I share is meaningless if you don’t want to move forward in your life.
It is important to recognize that there is a difference between not wanting to be like you are now and true desire to change. One focuses on what you don’t want…the other on what you do. If you believe in the Law of Attraction then you understand that what you focus on is what you receive more of.
Here is an example from my own life. I use to be stick thin. As I’ve aged I’ve gained weight. I’ve been on every diet and weight loss program because I didn’t want to be overweight (negative focus). It was however not until my desire to change was driven by wanting to be healthy and in shape (positive focus) that I experienced progress.
Today’s Simple Step is to assess your focus on change:
- Identify what you want to change. (Lose weight, get a new job, relationship etc)
- List out all of the reasons that you want to change.
- For the reasons that have a negative focus restate the desire into a positive statement. For example change “I hate my job and want to get out of this place” to “I want to do work that is more fulfilling and uses my experience to help others.”
- Every time you find yourself thinking about what you don’t want shift to your positive desire.
When you are truly ready to change your life and focus on the positive aspects of your desire then your life changes for the better…and that feels good!