Consequences are Choices Too

Throughout my life I’ve generally been a happy person.  Sure things get me down at times but my natural tendency is to see the positive aspects of life.  Generally it takes me less than 24 hours to recover from whatever pulls me away from my natural state. 

OK…that is what I have believed for as long as I can remember.

The last few years though I’ve encountered some serious challenges and have not been as quick to recover.  For those of you who may be newer to Simple Steps… Real Change here is my list:

  • My husband Jack was diagnosed with both leukemia & skin cancer…and in the process they discovered that he only has one kidney. 
  • I moved from my home in Washington State to Texas.
  • The company that I’d worked for since the early 1980’s was acquired and I was out of a job.
  • A few real estate investments were lost when the bubble burst causing a financial hardship.
  • I turned 50.
  • My Dad died suddenly & I am now the primary care giver for my 82 year old mother who is almost totally blind.

Each of these events, alone, causes extreme stress.  Add them all up and I’m a psychologist’s dream. 

I have tried these last few years to hold myself to the same standard that I did when my stresses were positive ones such as choosing a new position,  buying a first home and taking a vacation.   What I came to realize is that by holding myself to the same standard that I always had I was adding stress on top of what I already had to deal with.  That self imposed stress was my last straw.

I can’t tell you that I have worked through all of the events in my life.  Some are going to take me longer…especially my Dad’s death. I know that it is OK to grieve…in fact it is a necessary part of recovering.  I know that it is OK to mourn the loss of the life that I use to have.  In the end though it is up to me how long I stay in those states. 

It is my choice to be happy…or not.    It is my choice how long I keep myself from being happy.  The consequences however are choices too. 

As a believer in the Law of Attraction I know that if I choose to stay in my misery…more will come my way.  It’s a consequence of my actions. 

Are you accepting the consequences of your actions?  Or are you wondering when you are going to catch a break? 

If you are ready to take a hard look at your life and determine how to turn the tides try these Simple Steps:

  • Make a list of what is important to you along with any challenging events in your life.
  • Beside each entry write down what first comes to your mind when you think of them.
  • Decide if your initial thought is positive or negative.
  • If it’s negative then re-write your thought into a positive statement.
  • Practice focusing on the positive “slant” to your thought.  When you focus on what is positive then you begin to draw more positive consequences to you.

When you consciously recognize that the consequences of your actions are choices too…you will be more aware of how you are attracting events to your life.  Then you can choose a better way!


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