My husband Jack is very much my inspiration. If you have read my prior blogs or the introduction to “Simple Steps… Real Change, the Book” then you know that Jack has chronic lymphocytic leukemia (CLL). He is in Stage -0- and there is nothing that can be done for him until he reaches Stage -2. His progression to that stage could come anywhere from now to the next 10 years.
We don’t have any way of knowing.
Some people have asked me how we can deal with waiting for Jack to get sick. I tell them how Jack deals with this. He says, “99% of my body is healthy. I am not about to make myself miserable by focusing on the 1% that isn’t. “
My perspective is a bit different than his… I watch for changes in his health and am be a bit more cautious when he is sick or injured. He tends to forget to tell new doctors that he has CLL. I think that they should know. In many ways I focus on that 1% because I know that he won’t. And I hope that he never does.
My attentiveness to Jack’s wellness is not going to make him better nor is it going to make the CLL progress faster. There is however a difference between keeping his health on my radar and obsessing over this disease being incurable. The former gives me peace of mind. The latter would make me miserable… Being miserable is a choice. And for whatever time Jack & I have together I won’t waste a precious moment of it being miserable.
I have heard from several people these last few days who are going through their own challenges… Each one always ends up saying something like “I know that this doesn’t compare to dealing with an incurable disease.”
The truth is that there are people who are in much more dire situations than we are. It’s all about perspective and we only live our own lives. In the end you have to decide if your challenges are going through will cause you to choose to be miserable or whether you embrace whatever comes along and choose to be happy. It’s all up to you.
Today’s Simple Step comes from a fundamental principle of Simple Steps…
Happiness is a Choice
When you are faced with a challenging situation look for the lesson that you can learn from it. When you see it as a chance to learn and improve your life it no longer holds the same power that you thought it did to begin with. You have just chosen to see the good…and you have chosen to be happy.